Jesus Completes You.

I've been writing a lot of posts on the theme of relationships lately, and this one is no different. I'm on a roll y'all, so buckle up.

I have this issue. This thing. This "beef" if you will. People are always saying "He's my other half" or "she's my other half" or "I'm looking for someone who completes me", etc.

But like, NO. That makes me cringe. I don't want that.

Why?

Because I'm already complete on my own. (And so are you!)

God didn't create you and then say,

"You are only half a person. Now you must go out into the world and tirelessly search for the man/woman who is your other half."

I spent far too many years in high school (and embarrassingly enough, a couple of years in college as well) thinking that I needed a boyfriend in order to complete me.

But that's so not true! And honestly, I feel so much freer now that I've made that realization.

Please always remember that Jesus is the only one who completes you. Yes, He made you complete on your own, but He also longs for His creation to recognize their undeniable need for Him.

I want someone who recognizes that I'm a whole person on my own. I don't need a man. However, in regards to my future husband, I will be choosing to be with him because I want to be, not because I have to be in order to be fulfilled and completed.

Because no human being can do that. Everyone will disappoint you and fail you at some point. Your best friend, your parents, your siblings, your significant other. The only one who will not fail you is Jesus. And that's part of the reason why He is the only one who completes you.

So please, I beg of you, learn from my mistake when it comes to this. You are complete on your own. There is so much freedom that is found in singleness. And I know that everyone says that and you're tempted to roll your eyes and stop reading and simply not believe me because it seems so cliché, but fam, it's true.

You can take so much more time to focus on yourself. Focus on your relationship with God. Focus on your schoolwork. Focus on your job. Focus on your hobbies, the things that you're good at and that make you feel good about yourself. Heck, focus on friendships that are actually currently a real thing instead of spending all of your time longing for, searching for, and striving for a relationship that doesn't even exist right now.

And don't get hung up on the lies. You know them. "I'm single now so I'll be single forever." "I'm so undesirable." So on and so forth. None of them are true. They may feel true, but they're not. Feelings are often dramatic, amplified, and just plain not true.

Remember that you're young. That's another thing that I used to roll my eyes at when someone said that to me. But for real, I'm twenty and I'm still finishing up my Bachelor's. While I may be ready for a boyfriend, I'm so not ready to settle down with a husband yet. So wait it out. Be patient. A beautiful relationship will likely unfold when you're least expecting it.

But until then, chill out. Breathe. Enjoy your freedom. Smile. Don't focus on the lies. Patience! You're already complete in the Lord.